Sometimes it might seem like building success can only happen on top of someone's failure. Life seems to teach us that everything is a competition and some of us take that idea to the extreme. It's completely possible to build your own happiness while also being a positive force for those around you.
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There is the phrase I've been saying for a very long
“There is no value on being a millionaire drinking coconut water somewhere in Bahamas, if there is no one to share the moment with - @chbartist"
In my mind surrounding myself with people who belong to what I call the tribe of good intent is not just important, it's crucial for me to feel accomplished. If my friends are there with me, enjoying their own success, drinking they own pina colada or whatever they choose to drink with their own efforts, that becomes an inspirational blessing for my life.
What is the lie I think we should erase from our minds? The idea that the only way to move forward, to grow is to step over everyone's head. No man is an island on his own, happiness can't be built on someone's misery and these truths are simply unavoidable.
You might be thinking to yourself that there is not enough room for everyone, that there is no way everyone can be successful. There is some truth to that statement, not everyone that tries will achieve, but the idea that success is a ridiculously scarce resource that you are either destined or not to achieve is very, very false.
We can make our own truth, just as much as we decide what success means to us. We have the power to build on our happiness, as long as we are willing to learn the tools we require to do so.
I even go as far as saying that helping others grow can be part of your plan to be happier, to build your happiness. There are lots of arguments for the positive effects of altruism in our brains and I find them to be very compatible with my worldview and experience. Finding the right people to build your happiness with, finding the right people to share, is probably just as important as any good intentions you might put forward.
That is part of my drive everyday and that is what keeps me motivated to share my story.
Until next time wishing you all the best
@chbartist
You don't really know me to make such allegations, this is something you are assuming. I don't need to buy respect, I can guarantee that and this has always been the case. Respect is something earned by paying with respect, something that you don't really care for. On top of that your comment is very hypocritical who is actually buying their "respect" as you call it is someone who only votes on himself, as the image shows...
You vote 98.8% of the time in yourself, yet I'm the one who does not respect steem, so its narcism and hypocrisy, please... take care of your blog, continue to do your thing keep on voting on yourself and keep on buying yourself the "respect" maybe one day you will achieve what you are looking for.
all the best
@chbartist
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For reference this is the report on my account... Yet I'm the one buying respect??? I'm not even at 1% self upvotes and have voted on 2700+ people...
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I'm sorry if my comment came off as hostile as that was not my intention, but your response is snarky and definitely seems like you got offended for some reason.
The last time I checked on one of your posts was when @therealwolf said you were blacklisted so I was not informed of any change. I just simply don't want to use bid bots on my posts. It has nothing to do with my lack of belief in what I post or nothing productive to share. If I didn't believe in what I posted, I would not post it. It's that simple. I don't spew motivation. I take time to write about science in #steemstem occasionally. If people wanted to see science stuff, they would visit the appropriate tags.
>Your comment also shows me that you probably did not read the post in the slightest, since completely from left field.
Yeah, I read the post. That's why I upvoted it, I think you try to deliver good messages. I would loved to have contacted you elsewhere with the same thing I commented but I assumed your contact email on your website is for business inquires so I strayed away from that.
How is my comment sarcastic? I'm genuinely curious to see the engagement on one of your posts that is from your followers without bidbots hitting the post. You seem to get good engagement on your posts as there are usually >100 comments per post.
And to your comment:
>More time spent on your own blog will work a lot better for you...
Yeah, I'm aware of this. Too bad I spend 90% of my time at work or in class so I am too bust to work on my blog here. Wish I had the time to work on it though.
@branbello, I apologize for sounding hostile, it was probably a knee jerk reaction combined with miscommunication. Its hard to read between the lines when it comes to text as you know, written words are cold and not easy to interpret. because of your response I can tell you are a good guy, so again I apologize for being snarky...
Wishing you the best, and I sincerely hope you succeed and find the time to build your blog too... (im not being sarcastic or ironic) I'm speaking from the heart, because like you said I try to do my best to communicate with all that follow with the best intentions I can possibly have and always with much respect.
If you work on your blog more (I try to find the time too, its difficult and it takes a lot effort) you will discover how many good people are still on this world even through this platform.
All the best
@chbartist
@chbartist I love that first quote. It's all about who you share your experiences with that determine how enjoyable they are. I also really liked when you said:
>You might be thinking to yourself that there is not enough room for everyone, that there is no way everyone can be successful.
This is a perspective I run into again and again in my travels, and I believe it is a result of misleading cultural education (a euphemism for brainwashing).
In religious families, children are taught "We are all born sinners" growing up. In the business world we are taught to be "sharks," and that it is a "dog eat dog world,"or my personal favorite, "It's just business" (he says, forclosing homes of 90 year old women for mispaying their mortgage by 27 cents)
In the end, evil men will make up whatever the heck they want to justify their deeds but where it gets on my nerves is they always feel the need to convince everyone else to believe their delusions. But the really sad thing is, this is a byproduct of an overdeveloped ego, and yet they can't see the clear logic of what you said here:
>I even go as far as saying that helping others grow can be part of your plan to be happier, to build your happiness.
Even psychopaths should realize that by helping others they help themselves. By helping evolve all of humanity, you evolve. By helping families become more happy, you live on a happier planet. By ending homelessness you no longer have to look at people laying on the street, etc. etc. ad infinitum.
I can’t help thinking about how you’re feeling right now, after the amazing performance of your friend “with the most brilliant mind in the world”.
Anyway, we all have our own definition of happiness and success. To some, happiness means helping other people grow, succeed and live the life, others simply find happiness in making someone smile (or making people feel sick, just like your friend here). And if success to you means feeling accomplished by helping other people, some simply measure their success by how happy they are.
And If you ever encounter more brilliant minds who refuse to learn, just understand that the worst possible thing for humans to do is to use up all of our resources and fail. And if they do not believe they can make it, they will not get the resources they need to make it. So don’t be disheartened and let our hopes shape our future.
I hope you’re doing well.
