It's not easy to make the case that even if we are self sabotaging we might be doing so with positive intent. Meaning that sometimes your brain is trying to protect itself from succeeding and putting yourself in a position of needing to continue to do so.
It sounds outrageous to say it sometimes, but many of us actually fear success, and it's a way that we ultimately try to protect ourselves from what we perceive could be an even bigger failure, a bigger disappointment.
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As much as it might be productive to attempt to think about all those times we have self sabotaged ourselves, it might be more effective to start recognizing today the negative behaviors and maybe change some core beliefs we might hold.
Believing that money is evil for example, or believing that the game is rigged against you because you hold no position of power, is in many circumstances disguised ideas of self sabotage. These thoughts become a way to excuse inaction, a way to ignore the fact that we are not powerless, but the opposite, we own our truth.
We can all benefit from interrupting those old patterns, and questioning some of these ideas and maybe letting go of this fear and the beliefs that keep it alive.
Hope everyone had a beautiful weekend
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> Believing that money is evil for example, or believing that the game is rigged against you because you hold no position of power, is in many circumstances disguised ideas of self sabotage. These thoughts become a way to excuse inaction, a way to ignore the fact that we are not powerless, but the opposite, we own our truth.
I'm not sure that I totally agree with lots of specifics things in this. But it made me smile (you know why). And I think there is something to the idea of self-sabotage.
@artizm | March 12, 2018, 1:50 p.m. | Votes: 0 | [
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When it is successful, people will demand more and expectations will increase.
Meeting these expectations will also require energy and time. (There is also the fear of not meeting expectations, but this is not a success, but fear of failure.)
People who are not prepared to meet these expectations may be afraid of success.
I like the article very much. Thank you for the beautiful letter.
:) This is a very well-written comment. So much so that it looks like it's a compilation from those quote sites. I don't intend to say that you plagiarized it, but that it's a pretty good word selection.
What I didn't understand was your formatting on it, lol. > is for quotes and * is for enumerations, but you used them to stylize. There are other style tools such as <strong> and <em>. There's even # and ##; you could make some part bigger. I've seen some who do this and it's not that bad :) Definitely better than semantic misuse.
@moiin | March 12, 2018, 8:45 p.m. | Votes: 0 | [
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Today I motivated myself by just saying: "Be a soul filled with love".
It was my mantra today. It can be love for anything. For your job, your passion, a person or just being happy you're on this earth.
After having experienced a great loss, I feel this is really helping me.
Be a soul filled with love.
I agree with all the points you mentioned above and I think that is one of the issues many people are held back by themselves. Actually, we all reach this point from time to time. But the problem with self sabotage is the fact that it is not as easy to overcome as one might think initially. Since we imposed the problem on ourselves subconsciously, you cannot just do it. You first have to admit to yourself that there is something holding you back and you have to work on it actively. There is not quick fix that you do once and the problem is just gone. You will relapse from time to time, and those "relapses" will remind you what you have reached so far.
People often tell you to just "DO IT" (pun intended) but if anyone thinks that issues like this work just like that, they have never really faced such a problem. Just my thoughts about it, but the human brain is a master of hiding fears from ourselves and it is often even better at keeping us distracted from taking a deeper look. Life today is so fast that people rarely get the chance to think about themselves and this only amplifies the topic mentioned by the OP.
