Very valid points and I tend to try to think on the positive, too. There have been toxic people that I said goodbye to, too. The older I get, the less I can tolerate. Life was meant to be enjoyed. Good stuff!

Life was indeed meant to be enjoyed. Wise words. Thanks for checking it out!

Great post @clayboyn I've been thinking about the toxic relationship part of your post a bit lately

i appreciate this message yet it seems to contradict other concepts like needing the spectrum of light to dark so balance is kept, accepting people as they are and not what we want they to be, and realizing that people are not wholly negative or positive but a mixture, and possibly the mirror. at some point we need to accept people are processing and the best thing we can do is try not judge them. personally i think negativity has little to do with the event that they are being negative about and more to do with the inability to process events at the same speed that other people seem to take for granted.

Sometimes accepting people is walking away from them. It's not something meant to be taken personally, it's meant to protect our own happiness. We can accept people and exclude ourselves from their lives, rejection would be staying and trying to convince them they are somehow wrong and need to change. At least that's how I see it.

unless the other person is being physically or emotionally abusive to you, acceptance would mean remaining present yet not trying to change them or judge them. if you need to walk away away from someone in order to protect your happiness, that means you are basing your happiness on another persons actions or emotions. i usually find if i need to walk away from someone, its because the other person is bringing up an emotion in myself that i havent addressed.

>if you need to walk away away from someone in order to protect your happiness, that means you are basing your happiness on another persons actions or emotions

I guess we will have to agree to disagree. I feel that when we stop basing our hapiness on other people we can walk away from all of them and still be equally happy. Isolation and walking away from a person you fundamentally disagree with are not the same thing. Physical abuse is pretty easy to define, but emotional abuse is very subjective and none of us owe anyone anything. What we give to others is given freely or with attached expectations. Expectations lead to that feeling of "investment" or "deserving" something from someone else. If our happiness isn't based on them we can let them walk away just as easily as we can do the walking away.

well all of this is really difficult to determine based on a generalized concept. we might even agree but be keeping different examples in our head when we are speaking, so really miscommunication is the culprit.

That's so right. For example I am always late to work and my boss keeps telling me to send a message with how long I'll be late, but I never did because I thought she will be mad anyway. But it happens that in the morning I sent a message with how long I'll be late and she was very happy.

She was probably grateful that she knew you were on the way and could adapt. :)

We actually become what we think.. That's why we nerd to be positive always

Thank you, love your way of presenting these ideas.

I'm glad the resonate with you! :)

Similar is attracted to similar to themselves. Negative people attract negativity. I don't want to think about the bad. Life is short. Better to spend it on the positive and be grateful for everything good in my life. When the car pulls the wheel, I think maybe it's a sign for me:" don't hurry " . I'm not upset because of the delay of flight. Perhaps this is also a sign. "Miss trouble." Someone will say that this is nonsense. But I checked. It works for me. Thanks for Your post,@clayboyn

Agreed and it works for me as well. :)

I need to remind myself of this more often. Great thoughts!

The perpetual state of reminding ourselves of everything. :)

Love the way you ended this... we do deserve happiness, even if it means cutting some ties. Great post and namaste. :)

I tend to make a positive thinking about my life because it just makes positive results.

I agree! Great outlook.

Thank you for your reflection. I used to be one of those people that would not get out of toxic environments. The negative energy really can start to inhabit a space. I had thought that my overwhelmingly positive, even keel could weather being in constant close proximity to negativity, but over time it can wear a body (and spirit) down. It is hard to let go, but often in the end it's letting go of something that was not real to begin with. And that is the part that sometimes hurts more.
Thanks for the topic!

I agree, thanks for sharing your perspective as well. :)

good post, really we should be positive and have good intentions all the times.