Hi! Off to a rough start?

I didnt attack anyone

I didn't say you did. Are you okay?

I'm strong but it feels so sad to be mistreated

Restart by adjusting the things you can control in this moment. Consider the possibility, they thought they were doing the right thing, and will most likely not budge from that position.

I'm sure it was nothing personal but things escalated. Start fresh by not taking it personally. The advice you were offered wasn't an attack.

but they kept downvoting after hours second time

one of the posts was devoted to my grandpa who passed away. they fully disrespected it

You've already expressed those concerns to others and how you feel about it. They've already told you their actions were not targeting your family or intended to be disrespectful.

So let's focus on now, and moving forward. Being feisty is normal but try to calm yourself and not be the one starting the next round of arguments.

My intention is to help smooth things out but I can't do that without your participation.

I can also walk away if you'd prefer that.

thx dear for help

Please try to be professional. If you have any questions, feel free to ask.

ok gonna add you or I already followed. I may need to ask some questions where can write?

Here in this comment section is fine with me.

And so you know, I stumbled into your account after you had left a comment someplace else, which led me to this post and eventually everything else.

Downvotes exist here for loss prevention purposes mainly. Say you're running a business, and every time you open the cash register, money starts blowing out the door and into the street. As a business owner, you will do everything you can to prevent that from happening again. You invent a spring-loaded mechanism to pin the cash down so it can't blow away. Problem solved.

People on this platform do not want to see money blowing out the door, so at times they'll step in to prevent that from occurring.

People aren't even mad at you. They don't hate you. None of that. You're okay.

these people does not protect anything they work against me simply to spoil my talented posts. they wanna lower me to make me apologize for something I havent done...what a jealousy

I can't do anything to stop you folks from arguing. I didn't come here to argue. I can see how it escalated again.

This is just silly now isn't it?

she keeps downvoting my posts, didnt she has life other than haunting me??😂😂

I don't know why she did that. lol

I can't say I agree with that series of downvotes. So much for progress!

This is why we have words. But we need to use our words efficiently and effectively. Keep in mind I'm not taking sides in this.

I never saw so much jelaousy as here saw🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I don't think it's jealousy. And of course you're free to be cocky about it. Certainly doesn't offend me but it's also not helping the situation. Just an observation.

This entire episode started as a misunderstanding. Continues down that same path.

What do you suggest happens next?

do you see it's fair for them to tell me what to do ???I didnt misuse anything and also never harmed or downvoted them. why they r so jelaous they try to brag their years of experience or how old member....this is not justifying action

Yes it's fair. If people weren't allowed to tell others what to do, I wouldn't be able to ask you to stay calm or try to move forward. And if you took offense to that, converted it into me being forceful, misinterpreting my intention, then we'd be the ones sitting here arguing.

If you fall out of the boat, someone notices and throws you a flotation device then commands you to grab it, but you freak out thinking it's unfair to be told what to do then snap on them, that individual might look at you and say, "Well. Drown then. I don't care."

why they have to warn me in something I dont wrong? and then continue haunting?
is it fair to u??

Show me the incident where you were warned for doing something wrong, but you think it wasn't wrong. That'll help me understand your perspective a little better.

As for your questions. I can't speak for them. Keep that in mind. I don't live inside their heads. And in general, life is fair. Doesn't always go our way, but that's only fair. Fairness is balance. If you're having a bad day or dealing with difficult people, the goal is to always reach equilibrium again, not tip the scale fully in the opposite direction.

can I write you somewhere else even though I know you respect your privacy and I dont mean to invade your space. but I feel comfort to explain the entire story somewhere else please

That's actually a tough call for me to make. Nearly seven years here and I rarely speak to anyone behind the scenes.

Nearly ten hours ago when I reached out, I thought by now cooler heads would prevail and we'd be past this.

I understand how uncomfortable and overwhelming of an experience this has been for you.

I had no way of knowing things would escalate and I do not defend the actions of those being heavy-handed with their downvotes this late in the game.

I'd really like to stress the fact it's not the end of the world for you. You can move past this. I wanted to help you get there. So maybe going back in time is a bad idea.

And don't be embarrassed. You're being open and honest from your perspective, even living up to your name. People appreciate authenticity and around here, drama happens. People are used to that as well. Nobody is perfect here and mistakes were made. Mistakes aren't a big deal either.

For me being accused harshly that havent done anything wrong is a sign of racism and jealousy, especially if didn't earn millions of dollars as them

You've officially put an end to this discussion. I refuse to waste any more of my time talking and I will not be explaining why. That is for you to figure out on your own. It will be obvious to anyone else reading.

Have a nice day.

why I have to apologize whereas I never did anything bad

Hopefully this user takes your advice.

ok but do you hate me ??

cuz you kept chasing after my posts and downvote

Time to grow up.

exactly growing up Is about skipping the posts you find wrong or not to your taste instead of hurting. #nottoyou but since the guy's comment attracted big dislikes on my post I didnt manage to notice who upvoted who downvoted

> exactly growing up Is about skipping the posts you find wrong or not to your taste instead of hurting.

Nope, you are wrong about that. Growing up is about taking responsibility for your actions, instead of throwint tantrums because you were not allowed to do what you wanted.

This is not nomansland, this is our land and we make sure not to sweep under the carpet what it's wrong. That mentality you are mentioning is not going to work on Hive. So you'd better make sure play by the rules, or face the consequences.

so if you're an old member by luck you have to say to newcomer artist "this is our land"?

When I said it's our land I mean you, me, and all the other users who are here. I'm not an old member by luck, I am an old member by choice. I don't care if you're an artist or not. Being an artist does not give you the right to disobey rules and do what you want.

your guy said he can do what he wants and he can downvote my posts...interesting

Erica I think haunting a simple user who didnt downvote anyone or hurt anyone first, who didnt even ever downvote anyones post or gave negative remark is terribly unfair. Plus, like I said I can go for days without posting which I didnt see in the guys page

It is unfair to call someone a spam and all the rest of the users start downvoting your post without recognizing your values, intellect and talent or know what's inside your mind or what hard problems you may go through. I didnt post many days so I decided to post 4 posts, but that doesnt mean I have to explain why I do for what. as your bestie guy said here is a free community...

Looks like you don't read any of the comments left to, you don't care about anything but yourself and you repeat the same thing over and over again, like a broken record.

Good luck on Hive.

since I deal with people who are simply working on harming a user. by the way dear I never give up or get oppressed

plus, disrespecting the post of my grandpa who passed away..

Does not compute.

Indeed.

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Don't post this stuff in this community again please. This is my community and next time, you will be muted.

hive doesnt have messenger to conduct justice by clearing our unfair treatments

So you decided to dump this post into this community?

i guess as one of the guys who abused me told me people do what they want here. so simply I'm left unprotected

And yes, this is true, people can do what they want and their behavior determines their outcomes. I spent a lot of time yesterday writing comments for you to understand a little, but your behavior has shown that you are not the kind of person I will spend any more of my time on.

I see most of you are one mafia. But I never give up )) I have the full right to fight for my own purity and position in the community. Dear, I never attack people first unlike what treatment I received here and you see till now I stand still and have all the instigators to talk for my rights. So much negativity and discrimination....have a nice day

It is interesting, as I was one of the first people who supported you, based on the history of the person who backed you. However, having been part of the last few days, I have recognized that you aren't the kind of person I would support here anyway. It is a pity you have taken the path you have in my opinion, but hey, you do you.

all of you trying only to do a person shaming but it won't stop me from being a community member. i never lose my hope for humanity anyways. A good human first of all will try to recognize the person in front.