I BLOODY hate when stuff planned gets fucked up last minute, usually i roll my eyes and throw a "porco dio!", well sometimes even multiple ones

Then I try to sort getting the less worse outcome

It can be frustrating for sure. Professionally I plan around it because I know it'll happen sooner or later. In the military they say, no plan survives contact with the enemy. It's the same in business, the best laid plans can go pear shaped.

Personally, (personal life) isn't always as easy to put contingencies in place (not always appropriate) but there's times I'm able to do it, certainly with my financial situations.

It's really important to stay agile I think, able to pivot and to accept that change can/will happen and that the only way forward is to keep going. But yep, it's fucken annoying at times.

Yeah, at work it's annoying but easier to deal with, when it comes on personal issues it's way more annoying

I know now that these things can happen all the time; it used to frustrate me. But now I think about the best course of action to take, one that will bring the best results, even if they aren’t what I’d hoped for.

To give a small example, I’ve been wanting to take my mum’s mind off things recently, as she’s worried about an operation she’s due to have. The lift has broken down. She can’t climb stairs. All our plans for going out and having fun went out the window. So I changed my plans and looked for something to do with her in the flat, something to take her mind off things for a while.

Being flexible and willing to embrace new paths is an important skill.

It is!!

In the past I haven't typically handled changes in plans like that very well. I've gotten better as I am older now, but it definitely throws your whole mindset for a loop. Then when the end result is disappointing that makes it a bit worse. It's funny how a lot of times change of plans like that always revolve around food or meals. At least for my wife and I. Like we plan on getting something to eat before a show, but the wait time is so long we would miss the show, so we just have to grab something quick and not as good afterwards.

A shift resulting in bad results is a double whammy for certain, I've had a few such situations but one needs to keep pushing on right?

Also, I don't like things fucking up my food; such an important aspect of my life. 😄

I'm with you there! Food is life! :)

When changes are beyond my control or there’s nothing I can do about them, I try to accept them as calmly as possible and adapt, because what I can’t control shouldn’t upset me. I also try to make the most of the new situation or change and enjoy the process.
But I must admit I don’t like last-minute changes either. Have a lovely day. Best wishes

Calmly is the way to deal with it but sometimes that's not possible...like when something fucks with my food! 😋

The culture here is very un-plannable. Which didn't make me stop planning - on the contrary, I make more plans now. From A to Z, there's always another idea how to solve a suddenly occurring problem. It makes people think I'm more relaxed than I used to be, which is kind of true, but not because I just "go with the flow". I just expect something to happen constantly, and most of all when other humans are involved, as they are impressively unreliable here.

I think having the expectation that something might go wrong (and planning for it) is a good strategy. A person gets taken by surprise way less that way.

My carefully planned stuff is frequently derailed by the enevitable clash with the real life.

I had planned a really cool vacation to Maui for the three of us. I had tickets, Airbnb on the ocean, a bunch of reservations at five star restaurants on the island and then Covid happened and Hawaii Air tested me that island is closed and my tickets are canceled.

Needless to say that I had to cancel the rest...

Fucken Covid.

I had to cancel a 10 day trip to Tasmania (for my 50th) and a 6 week trip to Scandinavia too, all booked and paid. Wasn't happy.

I can deal reasonably well with the day to day things that come along but when I have to cancel vacations...nope, I don't like that at all.

Hopefully you managed to get to Maui at some later date.

Yes, I did manage to get there again, but had to wait over a year and we came in right after some of the most draconian restrictions were lifted...

Who would have thought the word draconian would apply in our lifetime huh? Did though.

Hello,I agree that life is unpredictable and that sometimes we have to swallow a frog for breakfast in order to make our lunch (whatever it is) better and better. Let's say that my change in life was necessary, and that is that I started cooking on my own after the death of my mother, realizing that there was no one to do it. An old father, a wife with three children, she without any help from her parents who live far away from us. To broaden my horizons and finish the school for a chef whose major is also available at my school. It is not for nothing that they say here: you are half father and half mother :) although after 30 years of singing in various choirs, thoughts also go in the direction of music.More jobs you love will bring in more much-needed cash.I like and want to control all my changes.

Sometimes changes that come along can turn ourt really great as they sort of force us to adapt and do things differently than we might have usually.

I internally freak the hell out for a moment and then I am inventing so much nonsense on the fly to work around whatever the problem is. At work it's usually someone took something I needed or someone is running late which means I don't get as long on where we needed to go. I usually have some backup in mind for when these things happen but when there's a massive delay I've usually moved so that the following groups aren't trapped too but that does mean that my group gets temporarily stuck in limbo.

at least that's now happened often enough that one of my backup plans involves using a tiny square in the corner but even that gets stuffed if the person on the neighbouring apparatus decides that they want it too

And then I'm usually pretty mad afterwards about suboptimal results.

things usually work out fine in the end

Hope you were able to do a catchup meal where you wanted at some stage :)

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The internal freak out is probably reasonably normal and I think it's those who deal with that moment the fastest and most effectively move on in better ways, the situation is more of a blip than a mountain to climb.

Unfortunately I'm no longer in that area but I'll make a triumphant return at some stage and will definitely be eating at that spot when I do.