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Searching For Who You Are & What Your Purpose Is
"Today I want to be an engineer. Tomorrow I'm going to be a singer. Well maybe I'll try to be a nurse or a doctor." My old roommates from college used to joke like that. They were mocking another roommate of mine who couldn't make up his mind about what role he wanted to play in life. Although it was funny in the moment the fact is that this is real life for so many people. From one job to another people are in search. Searching for meaning. Searching for happiness or fulfillment in their work. Maybe this is where you are in your own life at the moment. You may be clueless as to what exactly you are supposed to be doing. If so you are not alone.
You see the thing is not necessarily that we don't search for who we are and what we are to become because I believe many of us do. It's mainly because we don't know how to even go about finding the answers to those questions. We all have things that light us up when we talk about them or make us feel excited just thinking about them. Those feelings are there and it's hard for us to hide it. But how do we harness those feelings and make use of them in our everyday lives?
I always say go in the direction of what energizes you and I mean that. Think of the things that light you up as a compass. It will help you to find who you are. It also will help you to learn about the things you are gifted in and the talents you possess. Don't ignore those feelings of excitement you get from being around or doing those things. It is a signal that you are in the right vicinity of what your life was designed for.
Who Am I?
For the longest time I was trying to take the typical American life path only because of my parent's expectations. So I went to college, graduated, and started looking for work. It felt so weird after I graduated because honestly I never saw myself sitting in someone's office or typical workplace nor had I had the desire to. I'm an artist at heart. A creative. It's just who I am and it's what I gravitate towards. Instead of focusing on creative pursuits I tried to do the things that society said would make me "successful". Long story short that was the worst decision of my life. I put my talents and all that stuff that made me excited on the back burner.
Let me tell you this. You will be miserable if you don't pursue what fires you up. Utterly miserable. No amount of money will change that for you. My wife is a perfect example of that. We were making good money when she was working for a company so that she could put her college degree to use. Well she hated that job and the only reason she kept pushing herself to go was because of the money. She was miserable. She would come home miserable, wake up miserable and often times she did not want to get out of bed. It wasn't until I motivated her to pursue her interests in health and fitness that a fire was lit under her butt.
Finding out what you were put on this Earth to do is one of the most freeing feelings there is. Its freeing because you can stop trying to be something or someone you're not. That's what I had been attempting to do but over the last few months my life has started to dramatically change. My overall health has improved, my purpose in this world is crystal clear, and more than anything I am more fired up about life than at any other point of my existence. This is not a coincidence.
All this has started to change for me because I tapped in to my gifts and talents and chose to walk in my purpose. I feel unstoppable. I feel the best I've ever felt. I feel free. This is how I want you to feel. I want you to gain a sense of direction and purpose if you don't have it. I want to you to be on fire about the things you love doing. It is not impossible. If God did it for me then he can do it for you.
Here are some resources that will help you narrow down who you really are and the things you really enjoy doing.
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You were made for a purpose. Find it.
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@snook | Jan. 15, 2018, 6:05 a.m. | Votes: 1 | [
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I bet it did. :(
What she should have said was "while working on making money at music what will you live off of in the meantime cuz I will not be me."
Giving you the choice to work hard for what you really wanted by having to work 2 jobs (music, ???something to pay bills until) then you are working for your future and not your Mom's future.
But that is easy to write as I'm not your Mom.........
and as I took my only child to the bus stop to catch a flight to South America so he could do what he needed to and not show him I was crying inside.............it's not easy to let your son grow up and let him go but as a parent your job is to raise a child so they can grow up and have the confidence to live on their own.
and yes, still can fell those feelings of letting him go live his own life........it's not easy for a Mom to do..........just saying.......
@snook | Jan. 15, 2018, 8:45 a.m. | Votes: 1 | [
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sorry, think my written words came out sounding harsher than they were meant to.
what I meant to convey is that there are always 2 sides to a story. sometimes more.
Your Mom just wants what she see's as good for you because she loves you. It's hard as a parent that the child you have and made sure he was always okay and taught him to walk and talk and eat. was there when he was sick.......worried when he was out..........it's hard to let that go. To let your child make their own decisions.
This is where a parent has to trust themselves that they did all they can to give their child the tools they need to make it in the world on their own.
This part is also the hardest part. You have to trust your child and yourself that you did the best you can and cut the cord. :D which is not easy to do because you just spent ??? years making sure they were alright.
and the worry over your child never ever goes away. at least for me..........
So you both have to be strong when it's your time to be you. Most times the Child has to be the stronger of the two because the Mom just can not let go and trust herself that she did a great job raising her son.
And from what I read your Mom did do a great job. :D
But parents from the beginning of time have always wanted better for their children then what they have.........
They tend to forget, from age and worry and just being plain tired........what it was like when it was their turn to go out and be themselves or they do and don't want you to make the same mistakes they did.......
problem with that is you have to make your own mistakes so you learn and grown and become more you with your own stories and experiences to hand down to your children.....
and sorry I wrote a book on things I'm sure you know already.
and I really do love your posts. You are always positive and sharing in your journey and it's great to read and see!!
There is, in fact, the founder of Aldi is a German and he died recently if I remember correctly.
Regarding my surroundings, I would style it differently, but I have other priorities, I am currently waiting for an incredibly high SBD price to cash out 10000 USD which equals freedom + safety for 1 year if steem would close.
Besides that, I will be able to take care of almost all problems with that amount of cash.
Afterwards, everything will be reinvested into Steem.
Whatever the case is Earl.
We are learning a very important lesson here.
We are learning to value every fucking penny.
The sons and daughters that grow up rich will not be able to handle cash. That is why Oligarchs don't give their children cash, they make them earn it.
This is just a stepping stone towards riches.
Soon I will be flashing that 10K stack here on Steem and name everyone who helped me get it, which you belong to.
And if you keep posting every day like you are doing now you will do the same as well.
Your Steem power is outrageous!
@Everittmickey I agree that Steemit makes winning and losing less relevant.
Winning and losing will always matter because many people in this world just want to win.
Ambition, power, lust, greed are parts of the human race.
We simply need leaders in this world, and if there is none someone will take that spot.
@humanearl I believe that Earl. The universe is so fucking big we can not imagine it, there might as well be a being that looks like a fish which is able to create real planets on his Planetstation 4 because his race is light years ahead of us and they can control the universe or something.
https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/0/0f/Earth%27s_Location_in_the_Universe_SMALLER_%28JPEG%29.jpg
I really wonder why that form is appearing so much in nature, why that design?
It looks really awesome by the way, man I can not help but say again that we don't know shit.
We do not even comprehend the knowledge that is hidden everywhere.
It always goes a level deeper...
"Behind your thoughts and feelings, my brother, there is a mighty lord, an unknown sage - his name is self; he dwells in your body, he is your body.
And deeper...
And deeper...
It never stops going deeper.
But only because we can think, to others life is just what they see.
Which leads to the conclusion that nothing has meaning and that we just are.
But we don't know what greater role humanity plays in the history of the universe...
Ah fuck it man, we don't know shit.
to paraphrase what you said.
what I think is irrelevant
what ANYONE thinks about the subject is irrelevant for that matter. Nothing can be done about it.
Oh...have you considered (trying to think of something crazy but not offensive)....
hmmmm
How bout this...according to an ancient manuscript that I just wrote..the path to salvation is achieved by kissing frogs. Have you ever kissed a frog? Can you afford NOT too? If you don't you might be missing out.
(reference, humorously and hopefully non offensively..to your Either/Or Fallacy logical fallacy)
Hololens is the latest and greatest Virtual Reality at the moment.
Next year there will be another latest and greatest
until Elon Musk's 'neural lace' is implemented.
Think 'matrix'..but you are in charge.
It is difficult because the path that leads us towards our general Human purpose requires us to change the nature we are born with. Thus the very strong, instinctive self-protective, survival reflex of our inherent nature hides this purpose from us. Love the discussion and engagement going on here
Our Human purpose in existence is studying and attaining the basic, fundamental laws of the natural Universe, mapping, unveiling its predetermined evolutionary plan. Then by also studying and gradually changing, refining ourselves we can adapt ourselves to this plan, finding and fulfilling our own, precice, unique “cogwheel” role in it.
This self-change, refinement means giving up our inherently selfish, egoistic and hateful nature, changing it to a selfless, altruictic and unconditionally loving, serving one. And our extremely strong and shrewd selfish ego does everything in its power to disrupt, derail this process.
Wow. This is great. Wonderful contributions.
If you've started looking you're half way there. In truth there is no one purpose of life. Life is life, a lion doesn't live with the same purpose as a sheep!
Your purpose and reasoning for life is as much your own as it is mine. We are all different, different skills, minds, pasts, presents, and futures.
Don't look at someone who makes a lot of money and say “that is the purpose”, don't look at someone who helps children and say “that is the purpose”, don't look at someone who fights and say “that is the purpose.”.
Look at yourself, ernhestly and ask what you love to do, why you love to do it, and how you're going to do it. Your purpose is to find those exact answers. Your purpose is to discover who you are as a person.
I heard a testimony once from a person who was hours away from committing suicide. She had it all planned out and was on the subway, heading home to do it. This person felt that no one cared or even noticed her and that it wasn’t worth living anymore. Her heart was so heavy, but then a miracle occurred. Her head had been hung low, but as she lifted it up, she noticed someone genuinely smiling at her. The person nodded and mouthed the words, “Are you ok?”
Even though she hadn’t spoken out loud, this desperate girl had breathed a prayer to God in her heart, and God answered. That day, that suicidal girl went home, with a small ray of hope in her heart and it was enough to keep her alive. No gift, no talent is too small for God to use! Even a smile given with the Love of God can change a person’s life.
I am inspired more with that video. I am happy to make my contribution.
First, let's take money out of the equation.
Now that money doesn't matter, what would you do with your time? Would you go skiing? Horse backriding? Lift weights? Pick your nose? (That last one was a joke, don't take it too serious)
Don't say that you'll lay on the beach all day. That gets old quick, and you'll eventually want to do something productive.
Whatever interest you, you need to set up a system where you can still do those things while earning income from it. For instance, if you like skiing, open up a skiing resort. If you like horse backriding, teach others how to ride horses. If you like to lift weights, go professional (IFBB) or even open up your own gym/supplement store. You have to really think about this.
Now, if you enjoy doing these, and it makes you happy to the point where time just passes by, then you've found your purpose in life. Whether you enjoy providing to others or creating something, that is what you should be doing.
Don't worry about the money if you do an excellent job at it.
I do feel like we all have a purpose in life, and it's not just one thing. Life is purpose enough (as @everittdmickey says), but I feel like the entire journey is purposeful AND we each have specific purpose within that journey. Too many people see their purpose as a destination, but perhaps it's just about being purposeful along the way. I do understand the cultural push for conformity; as a high school teacher I watched seniors struggle with their purpose and passion compared to their parent's vision of what they were 'supposed' to do. Did I mention it was at a Fine Arts school? So these kids were artists, musicians, dancers, actors etc. (and many were exceptional and have gone onto mainstream, successful careers). Suddenly, at the end of high school, they were expected to choose a career that would make them money, not fulfil their passion and daydreams (parents' words not mine). My advice always was to follow their heart, follow their passion, follow their own minds; life is way too short to be doing something you despise. In fact, life will feel way too long if that's the path you follow. Cheers!
Yes, each one of us is wired to excel at something specific. It's called purpose. We can't create what our purpose is, we can only DISCOVER it.
Your purpose is older than you are. Your purpose preceded you. Your purpose was the reason why you were manufactured.
A role was designed for you before you were designed. God didn't make you and then decide what to do with you. No, He brought you about because of an assignment on His heart.
As @humanearl has rightly said, life is miserable except it's invested into the accomplishment of that unique assignment God brought you here for.
There are different ways to discover one's purpose. In my opinion, principal of them is to consult the One who made you. When we ask God to reveal it to us, He will.
I was a teenager when I began to pray this prayer so earnestly because we were taught that our lives should be used only for the reason God gave it to us.
I decided to ask God to show me why I was born and what I should spend my life doing.
If I tell you God didn't answer that prayer I'd be lying because He did. Also, if I told you I don't know why I'm here on earth I'd be a liar.
I know it crystal clear because He answered me. He showed me what I'm to do with my life.
Today I cannot describe the peace, confidence, gladness and authority that flows in and out of me just because I do KNOW that I'm living in my purpose.
@humanearl Well done bruv. More grace!