There are many ways to live life, only some ways do not let you live. Life is a little moment ... and almost nothing is so serious…
Sometimes we get it right and sometimes we don't... it's part of life... especially when we feel overwhelmed, sometimes we just have to let things settle down. Not everything is always solved by doing, intervening, saying.
At times it's time to stop and see how things turn out. In this sense, to regulate ourselves, it's time to let things settle down. I thought this from a bottle of water with sediment, which becomes cloudy and does not allow to see inside.
However, if you stop stirring it then you get to distinguish the sediment from the clear water.
The problem is not always the WHOLE of a situation, it can be a part, but being all scrambled it is difficult to distinguish. It's a bad business to complain for attention.
Attention is not claimed, born or not. But demanding attention always leaves a bad taste in your mouth, it leaves you feeling (even if you get what you want) that the other did it because of the claim and not of their own free will. Also, I think that one should communicate that things are valuable, and one should not demand attention, that is born, it is done spontaneously, it feels and is enjoyed much better.
That is, how to measure the success of a woman or a man by a marital status or by a biological clock imposed by society. Turning over the age of 37 or more without children, without a partner, and without the traditional mold, is not a failure, it is a blessing if it means that we do not confirm ourselves with anyone for fear of society.
Sometimes, we stay without these bonds to protect ourselves from half-hearted loves and cheap manipulations, it applies to everyone. Because no threat of you're gonna be left alone has any power, when we learn to be our own home. I think the only real fear we should have is that of losing ourselves by trying to fit into other people's expectations.
We are all different and everyone is happy with or without a partner.
To all those spectacular women and men who are walking alone today, I remind you that you are not incomplete, you are maturing, healing and choosing yourself. The love of our life is not the one who comes to save us, it is ourselves, who decide not to negotiate our peace.
In addition, recognizing the red flags in a relationship is not paranoia, it is self-love that is not negotiable. Life doesn't end at 40, 50, 60, it just starts when we meet. If there is no attention is it worth sustaining the link? What do you guys think? I'm interested to know.
Happy Day! ... Janitze. 🌹
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva
Translation with |DeepL
