>What love needs to communicate, readjust, negotiate agreements, and take care of on a daily basis. It is to measure love in how they take care of you and not in how much they say they love you.
It is to measure love in how they take care of you and not in how much they say they love you.
Strong relationships don't just survive... Re-romanticizing, love, is not being corny. It's just to look at ourselves again as at the beginning, create magic in everyday life and remember why the fuck we chose each other.
I always say that love is the least intelligent human being has, but at the same time we can't live without it. And it makes perfect sense, because no one teaches us to love.
We come to our relationships by trial and error, carrying wounds that we don't even know we have, repeating patterns that we swore we were never going to repeat.
To learn to love is to know yourself well enough not to lose yourself in the other. To choose from clarity, not from fear. It is learning to celebrate our small victories, efforts and our existence, do you know why? Because gratitude is the most powerful aphrodisiac, and still decide that love will be bigger than resentment.
>Love also needs maintenance... and also romance.
I am one of the people who thinks that the cheapskates in love, is an idea that no one wants to embody, especially because it refers to a person who is not willing to share, who lives under the belief that if he gives what he has he stays with nothing, nothing is further from the truth.
And of course, this way of being goes beyond the issue of money, because some people, having it, may feel that it will never be enough. And even, it can go further, someone who does not offer his time, affection, love to others.
Love cannot walk except from generosity, everything that clings from selfishness dries up the bonds and affects its possibilities of flourishing. In a healthy relationship, the one who loves the most is not the one who avoids conflict, but the one who knows how to repair, and repairing is the most mature act that exists, it is not weakness, but to return with an open heart, it is mastery.
To love on good days and on bad days is to look at ourselves again as if the world had just begun, something like touching the same devotion of the first days and remembering that we not only choose to live together, we choose to light a fire.
Last but not least, after almost 48 years of marriage I have refused to let routine extinguish the flame of love, my husband and I have done it with presence and tenderness, to learn day by day, the art of knowing how to be a couple... Would you have an affair with a stingy in giving love?
Happy Day! ... Janitze. 🌹
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