My favorite thing to do was probably ride my bike or play with my Legos. I probably had a pretty normal childhood and if you were to calculate my ACE score it would probably be pretty close to zero.

Never heard of an ACE score abd had to look it up. I suspect mine wouldn't be great :)

From what you have said it doesn't sound like it!

I took an ACE quiz and scored 1. It was nearly all about drinking/drugs and physical violence. I didn't have that kind of childhood!

Interesting. I thought it was a standard thing based on what my wife had said, but maybe it isn't.

Maybe there are several versions

I was six-years old, when I was introduced to the world of football. The first person who introduced it was a Ronaldo's fan. Contrary to my first coach, I turned out to be a Messi's fan. I still remember, on my very first day, I got knocked out really bad that I fainted. However, when I woke up, everyone was so worried and I had no idea what even had happened. That day till now after 17-18 years, I am still playing football. So, basically, sports was my sort of favorite activity; but football had my love. Another thing was my writing my daily activity. I started this journey on my 10th birthday; I ended this journey of mine on 11th. I tried writing again, bought diaries over and over again, but ther wasn't charm in it. So, I just let it go. Other than that I cannot recall anything special.

Moreover, I think that a child should live a mixed life. A guardian must be a protector, but at the same time, a guardian must let the child deal with the situation. Let the child get hurt - mentally and physically. Nowadays, I have seen people not sending their children for a football (or anything else) session, just because they might get hurt. I get it, they are worried, but the real world is just full of bullies. Once they reach such a stage, where this "princess treatment" isn't accessible anymore, they will be haunted for life. So, those asx hole years are necessary; one gets to learn a lot from those moments. Experience, nothing else, is the only form of betterment. And, it is only possible through practicality, not imagination.
Otherwise, world is a fairy tale, and you are allergic to oxygen.

>I started this journey on my 10th birthday; I ended this journey of mine on 11th.

Do you still have it? Might be an interesting read :)

>but at the same time, a guardian must let the child deal with the situation. Let the child get hurt - mentally and physically.

This is the problem these days imo - the kids aren't allowed to learn.

It is an interesting read. Like even I, too, sometimes feel embarrassed. I wanted to be a soldier and fight aliens. Me thinking of leaving my house, because my parents were rude to me. List of promises I made to myself. So on and on...

I liked playing games for money. Coins, cards, checkers, chess, dice (my love for probability theory), etc. A little later, computer games.
After watching the movie "Wall Street," I knew I wanted to work from home on a computer connected to the stock exchange. It was 1989, the Soviet Union, and no one knew what the internet was :)

I don't get why so many people like Wall Street....

i enjoyed playing pokemon on my gambeboy. especially trading pokemon with my friends to complete the pokedex.

Do you still play?

not anymore. busy with work now. hehe

Ah youth.

At some point, we should not let those traumas define and limit us. It is a choice really. With everything that is shitty right now, there is something that is vastly better than it was for past generations.

I choose to preserve youth in my attitude, acknowledge but let go as many bad things from youth as possible, and mine my memory for the simple times knowing it is all the same, I just observe it differently.

> With everything that is shitty right now, there is something that is vastly better than it was for past generations.

Yes - but are they the things that really matter? Medicine perhaps, but even that has been twisted into a largely grotesque form of what it should be.

The idiots may have the megaphone now but it will come around.

>What was your favourite activity as a kid?

probably gaming. From what I remember I was never a big people person. So I preferred discovering worlds created by someone's imagination. I also liked reading. I suppose watching anime comes in third place (but I only remember watching a few animes as a kid. Dragon ball/dragon ball Z/ rurouni kenshin...most animes I only watched later). Now I play games less often but sometimes still find a true gem like Disco Elysium(probably the most unique game I ever played-your main character starts the game so drunk that he has now idea who he is or where he is. So his interaction with the world is really hilarious) or Baldurs Gate 3(this one I still have not completed).

> Baldurs Gate 3

I remember playing Baldurs Gate somewhere back around 1998 perhaps :D

As a Kid I loved playing Cricket the whole day; I still remember whenever we (a group of 6 friends) got early holiday from school we hardly spent few minutes at home and left to play Cricket, we play for the whole day no matter if it was raining or heavy hot temperature we kept playing;

No one can ever forget their childhood never;

batter or bowler?

At that time I was all-rounder;
But now I am just a Batsman.

ahhhhhhh.. the asshole years.. :P

and what about ernie? he is an 'adult', but luvs his rubber ducky! (i neve had one either.)

it made me think of my son, who is a quiet, serious type mostly. he is also #1 in his class, in perfect health, does wrestling, swimming, and judo as well as band, JROTC and often goes to church with his few friends. My sister's boy, on the other hand is very overweight, works a mindless pay check job, and doesn't really seem to think or care about anything resembling real or serious or responsible.. but he is smiley and a great entertainer, so he is cool. :P

>nd what about ernie? he is an 'adult', but luvs his rubber ducky! (i neve had one either.)

He also shares a bed with Bert.

I wonder if it is better on average to be serious or carefree in terms of life experience?

Also I ‘grew up’ quicker than the average other kid/teen. Boarding schools from age 6 onwards till a kinda student home from age 15. I have no clienof this was a good or bad path for me. I just know I had to fight for myself in boarding schools, and being responsible early in life.

The ‘fairytale’ worlds kids live in today, where parents protect their kids from all harm, may cause the enourmous amount of depressed kids and teens we uave these days. An opinion at this stage, not researched this… What I do know, peeps, specialists, refer to social media and parents telling their kids they are good in everything might by drivers for depression. I like to add resiliance. Something that may be developed by not being protected by our parents all the time and experience life in which we have more responsibilities early in life.

Boardings schools from what I hear can be hard. Back in the day, even harder.

>may cause the enourmous amount of depressed kids and teens we uave these days.

I think there is a strong connection too. Reality bites, mentality fails.

Resilience is at an all time low - like Hive :)

I didn't have a favorite toy, but I did love to make soldiers out of Plasteline and tanks and all kinds of other stuff, then I would put them out in a composition. Then I would take our air rifle and would shoot them up :)

:D

I could only dream of having an air rifle. Were you a good shot?

I used to be, but now totally out of practice. Though there is a red dot to help with targeting now...

I could only remember the toy truck 🛻 my dad bought for as a kid before he passed; that was the only toy I got as a kid. Nevertheless, my childhood was memorable.

I bet you treasured it. Do you still have it?

No, I lost it 🥹
I wish I still have it

I'll just ignore the serious bulk of the post and pretend it isn't there.

Childhood fun included LEGO, Matchbox cars, jigsaw puzzles, books, coloring books, building forts in the woods, playing in the dirt, visiting playgrounds, t-ball/softball/baseball, and occasional family road trips to visit relatives. Some were a 3-hour journey, others a 3-day trip. It was a fairly active and enriching life I lead.

What happened?

> You?

Writing, drawing comics (both of which I still do to this day when other useless crap that other people keep just expecting me to drop literally everything else for doesn't relentlessly waste all the time that exists) and riding my bike/otherwise gadding about the place were my favourite things to do.

Unfortunately my kids missed the gadding about the place phase because at the time where they should have been gadding (and in fact wanted to) I wouldn't let them be out unsupervised on their bikes because there were hoons around that ruined everything for everyone (they weren't violent or anything as far as I can tell, just monumentally mind numbingly stupid enough to think they were good drivers, I have told off several of the "children" who are now driving ager who think that doing 100 on the 50 roads is just fine because they're boring roads where nothing ever happens and they're good drivers).

> Maybe those "asshole years" that some kids have is a natural evolutionary feature to say, time to go out into the world on your own.

Hey maybe! XD I think it's primarily hormonal, all of my kids were horrible between 12 and 15 to the point where I was absolutely kicking them out at 18 and if they ended up homeless that was entirely their fault and their problem (I did not seriously consider this at any stage, only briefly in my most enraged moments XD). The big two came good at 15 and Youngest is coming good now (at 17). All of them still live at home (Middle on a technicality as she mostly lives with her boyfriend and his family but they're back here sometimes).

> now we have low-maturity adults who have been sheltered from a lot of the challenges in life, supported by family and teachers so they don't have to learn and build their own strategies to cope in the world

Selection bias yet again, I feel bad for anyone that has to deal with this or witness it as I've only ever heard second hand stories that make me wonder why.

> perhaps if childhood was filled with rainbows and unicorns, I would be one of those overly sensitive people with no strategy to deal with hardship, which might make experience worse

As one of those kids whose childhood was basically rainbows and unicorns (even if I had literally no idea at the time and did my best to find things to be outraged about, how dare my parents not let me go hang out with my friends all hours, my friends get to do whatever they want, my parents are horrible for giving me a curfew! And really horrible making me do chores I don't want to do I have better things to do with my time! etc XD) that's not necessarily the outcome.

whenever J or other people would lament at me that our/their kids "had no idea how good they had it" I always point out that they have no way of knowing due to lack of context and won't know til they're older unless they happen to have/meet any friends who are in actually bad situations

> I am entitled to travel unharmed

Okay so I do run under this assumption and genuinely believe that this is an actual entitlement for everyone. That and the resting bitch face + occasional lizard stare has probably helped this me true for me and I have been wandering around at times and places where I shouldn't have been (taking public transport home at 2am in my youth and more recently traipsing home on the dodgy train line through what was a really sketchy neighbourhood at the time but has been improving over the years).

> The problem I have with reality today is, it sucks

I don't know if it's a similar (living in fantasy world as described) or counter delusion that I have but I'm pretty determined to fix the reality around me and hope that other people pay it forward thus fixing the reality around them because that's pretty much all I can do.

It is pretty exhausting though and yeh it just sucks sometimes. But there's plenty more things that make it worthwhile, it just tends to not stick as much in brains that are hyperfocused on remembering only the bad things and the most extreme of good things.

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